Introduction – 10 MINUTES

Do you prefer individual or team sports?

Leader Note: This should be a fun and easy question for your group to answer. You may want to start out telling about your favorite type of sport and why you like either the individual aspects or team dynamics.

Observation – 15 MINUTES

Read Acts 2:42-47. How did the early church live in community?

Commentary from the passage:

They devoted themselves to the apostles teaching – studying Scripture
They devoted themselves to fellowship – and sharing meals (including communion)
They were devoted to prayer
They were in a deep sense of awe and they performed miracles and wonders
They met together, they shared everything they had
They were generous
They worshiped together at the Temple
They met in homes
They shared their meals with great joy and generosity
They praised God and enjoyed the goodwill of all the people
Each day the Lord added new believers to their fellowship

 

What did participating in those activities look like in their lives?

Leader Tip: Look at each activity and ask “What do you think it meant to devote themselves to studying Scripture?”

Leader note: It will be interesting to hear your group members answer what these activities would have meant to the early believers as it will reveal what they want from a life group. They will most likely talk about the activities that are important to them.

 

Understanding – 20 MINUTES

How does your group resemble this type of community?  What is lacking that you would like to add to your group?

Leader note: Go through the list that you made in 2a of the early believers activities. As you go through them have your group highlight those that your group has experienced together. As they answer ask them what it has meant in their lives to experience those things. Make a special note of those things your group says they haven’t experienced as a group. As a leader you may want to see how you can work those activities into your group plan for the next year.

 

APPLICATION – 20 MINUTES

What about this type of community are you looking forward to? Why?

 

Live it out

What will be different in our world if we were this community?

 

Pray

End your group time together thanking God for bringing you all together to form a group as described in Scripture. Pray specifically for those areas your group highlighted that they wish were better within the group, and for opportunities to make the group stronger and to live out all aspects of Acts 2:42-47.

5 MINUTES

Introduction

When have you gotten lost?  Where were you and how did you find your way?

Leader note:  This should just be a fun and easy question.  If you have a couples group it may be fun to play off the stereotype of guys not stopping to ask directions and gals that do – how that has played out in their family vacations, etc.

 

15 MINUTES

Observation

Read Matthew 3:16-4:11
What do you learn about Jesus in the wilderness?

Leader note:  This is a long passage, so allow enough time to read the whole passage and to answer the questions. 

Commentary:

He went to the wilderness right after He was baptized, the Spirit descended upon Him, God called him Son, and said He loved and was pleased with Him (wasn’t punishment)

Jesus talks about his temptation (at least to Matthew who wrote this, possibly all the disciples)
Jesus was led by the Holy Spirit into the wilderness TO BE tempted  (Jesus was obedient)
He REALLY was tempted (human side)

He was tempted by the devil, the devil is real

There was a real battle between the kingdom of darkness (the devil) and the Kingdom of God (Jesus)

Jesus had fasted 40 days and 40 nights
Jesus quotes Scripture – in its complete form
The devil also quotes Scripture, but in incomplete form, thereby twisting its meaning completely

Jesus was tempted with what would be very compelling

            He was hungry – temps Him to turn stones into food (self-reliance vs. dependence)

            He may have seemed “alone” – Satan tempts Him to make God prove Himself (Control vs. surrender)

            Knew pain and suffering was in his future – Satan tempts Him to compromise and receive his kingdom, instead of the Kingdom of God. (humility vs. compromising)

Leader note:  Before you move on to the next question be sure you have observed most of the points above, it will help your discussion.

 

Read 4:12-24
What did Jesus’ time in the wilderness prepare him for?  How did it prepare Him?

 

Commentary:  In the 12 verses that capture the time following the wilderness, Jesus began his ministry: preaching the Kingdom of God is near, recruiting his first disciples, and healing the sick.

 

Commentary: Jesus fasted for 40 days and 40 nights – he would have learned complete surrender and dependence on God during this time.  He learned surrender, dependence; He was led by the Holy Spirit so we know He was in tune with Him, He would have been strengthened each time He withstood the temptation, His resolute grew, He would have heard God clearly and known His call on His life as evidence from what He did next.

 

20 MINUTES

Understanding

How do people feel about “wilderness” times today?

Leader note:  People look at times of solitude or times of faith testing as punishment, as opposed to disciplining, drawing near to God, times of dependence and preparing you for the work God has for you in His Kingdom.  But that’s not the case according to this Scripture, God had just said, “This is my Son who I love and am well pleased” then sent Him to a time of fasting for 40 days and nights and the a time of temptation. 

 

20 MINUTES

Application

Where in your life is the Spirit leading you into the wilderness?  What would it mean to be obedient to His leading?  What might God be calling and preparing you for?

Leader note:  Remember that solitude is not bad, the wilderness experience is a place where God has led us to strengthen and empower us for whatever He has planned for us.  To be in solitude is not to be without, it is to be with God, depending on God. That doesn’t mean it is easy, fasting for 40 days and nights would certainly have been uncomfortable and challenging at times, and temptations were allowed during this time.  But resolve is strengthened, surrender is usually made complete, and dependence is the result.

 

Live it out

What would it look like to help non-believers in their wilderness experiences?  How can we use this time to direct them to God to find strength and resolve? 

Leader note:  And interesting discussion point would be to look at how a non-believers wilderness time may look different than yours.  Consider why that is.

 

Pray

Pray for those experience a time of wilderness, testing and preparation.  Pray to remember the goodness of solitude, express gratefulness for God’s presence and the Spirit’s leading and guiding.  Take comfort in the knowledge that in obedience to follow the Spirit’s leading God will also strengthen and empower for what lies ahead, no one is alone in their solitude.

 

 

 

Introduction – 5 MINUTES

There’s something very satisfying about winning against overwhelming odds. Describe a time when you experienced this in life or when someone you know had this kind of experience.

Leader note:  Everyone loves a story of an underdog winning, a “Cinderella story” of sorts. It could be a come from behind win in sports, or other types of competition.

 

Observation – 15 MINUTES

Read 1 Samuel 17:23-51.  What did Goliath, the Israelites and David bring to the battle?

Commentary: 

Goliath brought his reputation of being a Philistine champion
and of being a warrior since his youth
he had his shield bearer in front of him
he sneered contempt and shouted at David trying to intimidate him
Sword, spear and javelin

The Israelites were intimidated by Goliath, because of his stature and reputation.  The Israelite army ran away in fright
Saul, the king and leader of the Israelite army had his own armor.

David brought with him his faith that the Lord would rescue him as he had before
and the weapons he was used to, his shepherd’s staff, his sling and 5 smooth stones
Most importantly, David says “today the Lord will conquer you”
and then used Goliath’s own sword to kill him.
David recognized what no one else did, this wasn’t a battle of army vs. army, it was God vs. the ungodly, and the outcome was inevitable. 

 

Understanding – 20 MINUTES

What giants do you see people battling today? Where do you see them winning the battle? Where do you see them losing?

Leader note:  You want your group to talk about several situations where people are facing challenges, it is in those discussions that they will see the parallel to their own lives even though at this point you should still be talking in generalizations and not personalizing.

Leader note:  People in the world today are faced by so many giants, those that are intimidating because of their size and those that because of their reputation (never being defeated before) can seem overwhelming.  Some giants that people are battling are those of a physical nature – illnesses and handicaps.  Some are of an emotional nature – loneliness and depression.  Some giants look more like a behavioral battle – addictions, habits.  Others could be in one’s lifestyle and insecurities – huge debt, job loss or job stress, or relationship giants like marital problems.  There are great examples of people winning as well as losing these battles – consider those battling cancer and coming out on the winning side after treatment – and those that succumb to the illness.  There are examples of marriages that triumph after hardships, and those that fail.  There are examples of people prevailing against addictions to drugs and alcohol and those that don’t. 

 

Application – 20 MINUTES

What is a giant in your life?  Look at the things David used to defeat Goliath, what will you use to defeat your giant?

 

Commentary: Goliath taunted the Israelites and David by reminding them of his victories and their defeats.  He tried to shout them down and for 40 days intimidated them.  To battle the Goliaths in our lives we need to remember our victories.  We need to remember that God is with us in our battles and he is faithful to see us through.

 

Pray

Leave plenty of time at the end of your discussion to pray for each other and the fight against the giants in their life.  Pray through the spiritual armor that is available to us (in Ephesians 6) and if appropriate, lay hands on group members and anoint them with oil.  Pray for bold engagement in the battle, with God’s presence and power on their side they can claim victory.  Pray for God’s guiding and leading as they move forward in faith.

 

 

Live it out

People all around us are fighting Goliaths, how can we come alongside and bring our God into their battle?  Use this as an evangelism opportunity.

Date:  June 9-10, 2012
Series:  You are Here
Message:  Lament
Passage:  Various

 

NOTE:  This week you will be guided through an experience of a lamenting prayer.  There will be discussion questions provided, however they are designed to set up an experience so this will be different than your usual weekly flow question curriculum.  You will want to complete your discussion time with at least 20-30 minutes of group time left for the experience.

 

Discussion

Were any of you among those who were prayed over for healing this weekend? 

Did you pray for others? 

What was your experience? 

For those who didn’t, what were your feelings as you stood in the crowd? 

 

Observation

Read Mark 10:46-51 and Mark 14:32-39.  What do you learn about lamenting prayers?

Commentary: 

They are brought to God in surrender
They are offered in desperation
The release is in the surrender, not in God’s answer
They are not in vain
God’s plan is bigger than the request (Jesus wasn’t relieved of the pain and suffering ahead – but the world’s salvation was made possible because of it)

 

Understanding

 

When have you been a part of the “crowd”?  When have you been like Bartimaeus?  What keeps you from crying out for mercy? 

For those who were prayed over for healing this weekend, how did your lamenting prayers look like those from the Mark passages?

 

Application


Read Psalm 3.  Write a prayer of lamentation using the psalm as your guide (a format is provided below – however feel free to do this on your own).

Leader note:  If you are not in a place of lamenting, pray as an intercessor for someone in your life who is.  As you do, ask the Holy Spirit to give you empathy so you can actually feel the pain and desperation as you pray.  Experience the pain and then experience the release in the surrender.

 

After you complete the experience, come back together and debrief.  What was your prayer?  What did you experience as you prayed?

 

Thoughts on a lamenting prayer

In a classic lament there are three parts:

1. The lament — the honest complaint or cry of your sorrowing fearful heart

2. Remembering God’s goodness in the past. The Spirit brings remembrance God’s faithfulness. He also brings to his remembrance God’s character. The Spirit does not explain the why of the circumstances, but only the heart of God.

3. The prayer, based now on faith in God, or the resolve, based on faith in God.

 

Experience

  • Find these three parts in Psalm 3. Which verses are for each?
  • Pour out your sorrowing or fearful heart. Do it for God — if writing it down won’t change your cry, then write it here. If you are not in a time of pain, pray for those who are.
  • Warm your heart at the fire of God’s love by meditating on remembers things about God. If one of the verses sparks something in you, then God has spoken to you — and stay there, meditating.  You can reread those verses in psalm 3 if that is helpful, especially if praying for others. 
  • Write your request, or resolve.

Sample Prayer

 (Again, if you are not in a time of pain, pray for those who are). 

Lord Christ, you know our suffering deeper than we know it.  You rose from the dead, but you still carried your wounds. Will you teach us how to bear our wounds to you?  We do not want our pain to close us off from you or from others any longer.  Heal us oh Lord.

Your presence is all that sustains us, and so allow us to experience your presence in our pain.   Your strength was shown in weakness, and so we come to you, surrendered in our weakness.  And so our weeping lingers for right now, but may relief and even joy come in the morning.  Death and destruction come for us all, we cannot deny them or the wounds they have left.  But they will not have the last word, because you did not let them have the last word.  We surrender all to you Lord, and we cling to the promise of glory with you in eternity.

 

Flow Questions for June 2 & 3, 2012

1.  Introduction:  5 Minutes

What was a celebration you have been to recently? 

Leader note:  Have people in your group talk about a recent celebration they attended.  Then ask them how people were celebrating.  It could be anything from a birthday party, 50th wedding anniversary, or even a celebration of life at a memorial.  There may have been songs, stories, gifts, videos, memory book, great food – whatever it was, have them talk about the celebration.

2.  Observation:  20 Minutes

Read Joshua 3:5-4:9.  How did God show His faithfulness to His people? 

Leader note:  As a reminder, do not read these comments to your group. These comments and notes are for you, as a leader, to help facilitate through the questions. You are to help your group observe the passages and discuss their findings in God’s Word. The sample answers are for you if your group gets stuck, read one and then tell them to look further into the passage.

Commentary:

God spoke Clearly what His plan was
God spoke to someone who was listening and receptive
God followed through on every single promise
Not one person was lost
They were delivered safely
His presence was with them

What would people have been feeling before, during and after crossing the Jordan?

Leader note: Have your group think about moms with small kids, dads, the priests who had/got to carry the ark, and even Joshua.  What would have been going through their mind as they consecrated themselves in preparation to walk into an overflowing river?  What about while they were walking through on the dry ground?  What about when they got to the other side, completely dry because of God’s faithfulness?

What do you learn about the celebration that followed this event?

Commentary:

It was commanded of God
All people were represented
It was a memorial, for generations to come to remember God’s faithfulness

 

3.  Understanding:  20 Minutes

Where have you seen God’s faithfulness in people’s lives?

Leader note:  Think of family, or friends, or stories you’ve heard about how God has shown His faithfulness in their lives.

How do you see people celebrating God’s faithfulness?

Leader note:  You may know people who have been reconciled because of God’s faithfulness and they celebrate that with a party.  You may know people who have been healed, or baptized recently.  Or maybe a baby dedication.

 

4.  Application: 20 Minutes

How have you seen God’s faithfulness in your own life?

Leader note: Even in our hardest times we can celebrate God’s faithfulness, how He delivered us and made His presence known in those times.  And in the worst of times, or the best of times, we can celebrate provision, grace and mercy.

As a group, create a memorial and celebrate God’s faithfulness in your lives. 

Leader note:  This could be a memorial of stones like in the Joshua passage.  Or you could possibly plant a tree, or some other creative way to memorialize what God has done in your lives.  Try to think of ways to celebrate all that God is doing in your life, in the lives of those around you.  Be creative, let everyone participate in the discussion of how you can celebrate.

Leader note:  If your group will be breaking for summer this may be a perfect way to end your time together this season.  You can plan a party where you spend time building/making your memorial, tell stories, sing, feast, whatever you determine as a way to celebrate God’s faithfulness until you meet again.

PRAY:  Spend your last few minutes together offering a prayer of praise and celebration.  Bring needs to the Lord and pray bold prayers of celebration in the midst of trials and struggles.  Hold up each other as living memorials to God’s work and provision. 

 

5.  Live it out:  What affect will your memorial have on your family, friends and community as you share it with them?

Flow Questions for May 26 & 27, 2012

1.  Introduction:  5 Minutes

Where did you go on your last vacation?

Leader note:  Focus on the more positive aspects of vacation – the relaxation, the chance to get to see new places, the time away from daily hassles and routines.  You may want to save your story for last just in case you need it to create the atmosphere of rest.

2.  Observation:  15 Minutes

Read Genesis 1, 2:1-4.  What did God do in each of the six days?  What did he rest from on the seventh day?

Leader note:  Your group may want to debate whether Creation actually occurred in six literal days or if it is merely a figurative reference to time.  Simply state hat though those are valid differences of opinions, today’s study is focused not on that greater issue but rather on the accomplishment of the work and the rest that followed.  Further studies on Creation are something you can always choose to study later.

Leader note:  As you look at the facts of each day, talk about all that was encompassed in that part of creation.  This just expands the realm of the work involved – God did a LOT in His six days, we could never work this hard or accomplish so much.  It helps to understand the bigger concept of the work He did and  continues today.

Commentary:

First day:
He separated the dark from the light, creating night and day.
Second day:
He separated the waters of the heavens and earth can called the space “sky”.

Third day:
He made the waters come together, leaving dry areas, and called them “sea” and “land”.
He produced all of the seed-bearing trees and vegetation on the land.

Fourth day:
He made the solar system to govern this day and night: he placed the sun, moon, and stars in the sky.

Fifth day:
He made all the fish and creatures in the sea and the birds of the air, commanding them to multiply.  He created all fish and birds that create fish and birds of the same kind.

Sixth Day:
He made livestock, small animals, and wild animals – all animals that produce animals of the same kind
He created human beings in his image to reign over all of the fish in the sea, the livestock, birds, wild animals, and small animals on the earth.
He created human beings as male and female and told them to multiply and fill the earth and govern over the animals and fish.

Seventh day:
He rested from all of his work
He blessed the seventh day and called it holy because he rested from all of his work.

3.  Understanding:  20 Minutes

What are some different ways in which people fill up their seven days each week?

Leader note:  We live in the busiest time in history.  We do more because we have access to more.  Before there were cars, a trip to the market could be most of what was accomplished in one day.  Before the advancement in technology, getting one note or letter written and delivered could take days, but now it takes seconds and allows time for more opportunities and tasks to fill the day.  It will create a lively discussion if you talk about why we are busier now than ever and then list specific tasks, opportunities, appointments and activities that fill each day.  Include driving distances, kids’ activities, sports and physical fitness regimens, TV time, socializing, business meetings, travel, meaningful and meaningless time fillers.

4.  Application: 20 Minutes

What are all of the things you do in a typical week?

Leader note:  To answer this, you might want to have your group list out their activities for that specific day, and maybe the day before.  And if they can, maybe even the day before that or took at what is on their calendar for tomorrow.  Remind them to include mealtimes, sleeping, doctor’s appointments, hair appointments, nail appointments, kid’s sports, movies or TV time, work, driving time, pet time, cleaning, Bible studies, working in classrooms, volunteer work, and so on.  It is also interesting to split the time into weekday and weekend times as tasks tend to vary drastically during those times.

Leader tip:  Most people will be surprised by how much they actually do every day.  The list can contain more than fifty activities per day, and with most people trying to sleep between six and eight hours per day, that leaves only sixteen to eighteen hours to accomplish those fifty-plus tasks.  If you consider those things accomplished while “multitasking,” it is truly incredible what can be achieved in one day. 

The definition of Sabbath is “ceasing”.  What would it look like to cease from those activities in your life, one day per week?

Leader tip:  Now take a minute to consider what would happen if one out of every seven days was dedicated to resting, taking a break from “all of the work” you do.  To take a break from everything you normally do.  What would happen to your physical and mental health?  What would you “do” instead of al all of the work?

The Sabbath can “just be a day of rest.”  How does this view of the Sabbath differ from your previous thoughts?

Leader Note:  People have a tendency to think of the Sabbath as a day for God.  They think that if they are to observe the Sabbath, God is asking them to spend an entire day worshiping, contemplating him, and praying.  God gave us the Sabbath for us, just as he took a full day of rest after creating the universe (something our busyness will never outdo), he has instructed us to take a day off from “all of the work”. Talk about what “resting” looks like to you.  It will be different for almost everyone.  We want to avoid defining rest for everyone because once we assign rules – what you can and can’t do – we start looking like the Pharisees from Jesus’ day, where they had hundreds of laws about how many steps you could take, how much weight you could carry – before it was considered work.  This is a heart issue – not a legal issue.  It is about trusting in provision from God, in His working in your life.

Leader note:  Choose one day in the next seven where you commit to “rest”.  You may want to assign “accountability” partners and have them check up on one another and see how the “rest” time is going.  What is challenging?  How can they pray for each other as they continue to try to rest?

PRAY:  As you end your time together you can pray in the pairs you have selected to hold each other accountable, or you can pray as a group.  Pray that you will experience the rest that God has intended for each of you.  You may want to read Psalm 23 out loud to the group and sit for a minute with the thoughts that psalm provokes, and what it would look like in your life.  Ask God to show you rest, to give you rest, to meet you in your time of rest.

5.  Live it out:  How will you look different to your friends, family and coworkers if you begin to “rest”?  How might it affect them?

Mariners Flow Questions for May 19 & 20, 2012

1.  Introduction:  10 minutes

When you were a kid, what did you want to be when you grew up?

Leader tip:  Use the time to get people to engage with one another, let them respond to each other – open up the discussion.

Leader note:  After everyone has had a chance to answer, ask, “Why did you want to be that?”

 

What is a job supposed to give you?

Commentary:  Listen to their answers, it may reveal what they either get from their current career, or what is lacking.  You will look at that in the last question.  You may hear things such as:  fulfillment, money, provision, identity, fame, a place to be great, a place to express yourself, a place to use your talents and ideas.

 

2.  Observation:  15 minutes

Read Genesis 1:26, 2:4-17.  What do you learn about work?

Leader tip:  Let your group put things in their own words – not just recite the verse. 

Commentary:  some of the answers you should get are –

  • It is a gift from God
  • Gives provision
  • We are to tend/take care of God’s creation – what he gave us
  • It is a commandment
  • He modeled it – Created, gardener, got his hands dirty when he created people – man created from dust (the rest of creation was formed from nothing, but man and womam were hand-crafted)
  • Work is good – created before the fall
  • Honorable, God created work along with everything else – it is from God
  • God gives us resources to do our work (he provided water for the garden)

 

3.  Understanding:  20 minutes

How is your job like gardening?

IMPORTANT Leader tip: Use this time to affirm one another – Have your group affirm each other using this question.  For instance, if you have a teacher in your group, you can say something like, “I think your job is like a gardener in that you plan what you are going to plant in each of your students, you work daily to care for what you have planted, nourishing it with knowledge and attention, you help weed out wrong information and prune back behaviors that get in the way of growing, you provide the sunshine in lives by shedding light on new topics,

Every job has the philosophies of gardening attached to it.  Be creative, have fun but be honest so that the affirmation achieves its desired results.

Leader note:  If you are in a couple’s group it may be nice to have the spouses affirm each others.

 

What jobs don’t fit into God’s plan for work?

Leader note:  It is important for us to realize that not all ways people make their living are within God’s plan, for instance, prostitution or any job that exploits humans.  Neither is a bank robber or thief.  Think of others.

 

What can work do?  What can’t it do?

Leader tip: Draw two columns on a piece of paper and at the top of one columns write “Work Can”, and on the top of the other one write, “Work Can’t”

Commentary:

Some of those things work can do are – 

  • provide some fulfillment, sense of accomplishment
  • Make you feel valuable, worthy
  • provide community, friendships, can love people
  • make a difference

Some things work can’t do –

  • Be in place of God, can’t be what we worship
  • Can’t provide significance
  • Can’t completely fulfill your life
  • Can’t be a perfect place/we are broken

 

Leader note:  Some people think that going into church work or full-time ministry will offer more fulfillment in work, you may want to ask your group the question, “How is full-time work different than full-time ministry or church work?”  Only ask this question if you have time to allow plenty of time for the application question, (don’t ask this in its place).

 

4.  Application:  20 minutes

How does this change the way you will work?  The way you treat those who work with you or for you?

Leader note:  Recognizing that your work is good and a gift from God can change how you approach it each week.  Knowing that God created work will help you understand that your job is no more or less important than any other, which will help with dealing with people differently.  Think about those in the service industry too.  Acknowledge their worth, their value, their significance.  Consider the stay-at-home moms.

Important note:  We want to be sensitive to those who are out of work and not by choice.  Have them consider their job search – how it is like gardening, how it is what God has given them at this time – maybe it will make them look  differently at this period in their life.

Pray:  After this study it is appropriate to thank God for all of the new learnings you have about your work, thank Him for the gift of a job, thank Him for modeling work and for the provision of work. If you realized you need to change the way you think about your coworkers or those who work for you, pray for the opportunity to affirm someone at work this week.  Pray that you will be mindful of those in the service industry and others who you may have in the past treated as “less than”.  If you have anyone in your group who is unemployed, lay hands on them and pray for the gift of a job, and for encouragement to come this week.

 

5. Live it out: 

Think of the people who work with or for you.  Who can you affirm them personally or professionally?  How can you affirm people in their work as you go about your daily activities?

 

Flow Questions for May 12 & 13, 2012

1. Introduction: 5 minutes

Who would you choose to run “The Amazing Race” with? Why?

Leader note: If your group doesn’t know about the reality program “The Amazing Race”, give them this brief summary. Teams of two take part in a race around the world. At each destination they must complete a task (usually based on the culture of their current location), figure out transportation, clues that direct them to various locations, usually on very little sleep and very little money. The last team to arrive at each destination is eliminated and the winner of the race wins $1 million.

 

2. Observation: 10 minutes

Read 1Kings 17:1-24. What do you learn about faith from Elijah? The widow? God?.

Leader Note: A good way to look at this question is to go first through the passage looking at Elijah and all of his actions of faith. Then go through it looking at the widow. And finally, look at God in the passage – his demands, his provision, his faithfulness.

From the passage:

Elijah:

  • He was obedient – delivering the messages God gave to him.
  • He followed the directions of the Lord where to live and how to survive – by faith.
  • He was faithful again when he left the dried up riverbed and went to Zarephath.
  • He was bold in his declaration of the Lord’s reassurance to the widow and in his demands.
  • He took the boy’s lifeless body in an act of faith, upstairs and pleaded with God for the boy’s life to return. He believed the Lord had the power to do it or he wouldn’t have asked.

The Widow:

  • By going to get water during a draught she did show compassion for Elijah, but not enough to bring him bread.
  • She believed the words of the Lord as told to her by Elijah and obeyed him.
  • When her son was ill and died she blamed Elijah for pointing out her sins and killing her son – her faith completely waned.
  • When she saw her son alive again she proclaimed her faith.

God:

  • Made what seemed to be, difficult and unusual requests of Elijah.
  • Rewarded Elijah’s obedience with daily provision.
  • When the river dried up he asked Elijah to show his obedience again.
  • He awarded Elijah’s obedience again, with daily provision. This time displaying his provision to the widow and her son as well.
  • He allowed the death of the son.
  • In response to Elijah’s faithful plea He performed a miracle and brought the boy back to life.

3. Understanding: 15 minutes

What tests people’s faith today?

Commentary: There are so many things that test people’s faith. Encourage your group to think of specific people (without naming names) that are going through things that seem to have shaken their faith to the core.

Some things to consider would be sickness, troubled marriages, kids making bad choices, career shake ups, reversals of fortune,. It seems to be mostly the “how can bad things happen to good people” mindset that shakes people’s faith, but sometimes it can be “how can good things happen to bad people”.

 

4. Application: 20 minutes

How has your faith been tested in the past and how was God faithful?

Leader note: Help your group remember how God has been faithful during times their faith was tested. If there were things that you have happened while your group has been meeting you can prompt them with those situations. Maybe they were tested in a time of unemployment and God provided for them during that time. Or maybe they were losing faith during a time of illness, but God saw them through to regained health. Or possibly they experienced a huge loss, even a death, but they saw God work in their lives afterwards and in the lives of others to show his faithfulness and goodness.

What situation is testing your faith right now?

Leader note: You may want to share first on this question as it can be very personal and may bring up vulnerable situations. Maybe you have huge financial problems right now and are having problems keeping faith that God will provide, it may fell like God isn’t paying attention. Perhaps someone in your life is struggling with illness and you are losing hope for recovery.

Pray: This week you will have spent your time together remembering God’s provision and faithfulness through testing times. However, the last question brings up current faith testing situations in your groups’ lives, so spend time responding to a faithful God and asking for His provision, healing hand, supernatural power, whatever is required to meet the needs of your group specifically. It may be a good idea to assign certain prayer requests to members of the group to pray for these needs throughout the upcoming week.

 

5. Live it Out:

Who is someone you know personally who is going through a challenging time and how might you encourage them?

 

Flow Questions for May 5 & 6, 2012

1.  Introduction (5 minutes):

Who is someone in your life you can share your innermost thoughts, dreams and fears with?

Leader note:  Have your group members think of a confidant, a best friend,a counselor. The idea is to have them feel what it is like to have someone know a lot about them and still love them as we move into studying Psalm 139.

 

2.  Observation (15 minutes):

Read Psalm 139.  What do you learn about God?

Leader note:  There are a lot of observations so spend enough time on the question that you draw them out. Have your group put what they are reading into their own words, but don’t change the meaning of the text.

Commentary:
Some of the answers your group should come up with –

    • He knows everything about me
    • He knows every move I make
    • He is familiar with every aspect of me
    • He is discerning toward me
    • He is all around me and actually lays His hand upon me
    • His closeness and full knowledge is hard to even imagine
    • There is no where I can go where He isn’t

 

3.  Understanding (20 minutes):

What is comforting about God’s knowledge and closeness to you?  What is kind of scary about that?

Leader note:  It is comforting to know that God is so intimately involved, and knows everything about us  there is definitely a relief knowing He is always with us, but it is also scary that he knows every thought – even the bad ones, the sinful ones, the ugly ones. And that He is with us in those places we shouldn’t be, doing things we wish He didn’t see.

 

4.  Application (20 minutes):

Where in your life do you feel God isn’t there?

Leader note:  maybe you have a circumstance, a sickness, a problem in your marriage, a kid who is having troubles, loss of employment, financial devastationa dn you feel alone, as if God has abandoned you.

Thee’s another side to this too. There may be times you think you leave God behind. Maybe you come to church and meet God and you have your veneer that everything is great there and then when you leave, you think He stayed back there and you can go and live as though He isn’t with you – your behavior changes, your language changes, the way you handle anger may be different than if you knew God was still with you.

What would change if you knew, and really believede, that He has been there the whole time?

Leader note:  it may be hard for some to realize that God has been there the whole time as they are struggling. Why wouldn’t He fix it or answer their pryaers if in fact He is there? But his is a wonderful time to remember that we are not promised a life without struggle, or pain, just because we are in His presence 100% of the time. And he knows what we are going through.  We can’t know His thoughts or ways, but He knows ours.

For some it may even be harder as they look at their circumstances and believe that God has been there the whole time – why isn’t He doing something? But what if He is? What if He is doing something int he midst of your struggle, illness, etc?

Maybe places you go and people you hang out with might change, or at the very least, the way you are when you are with them, when you consider God’s presence next to you the whole time.

PRAY:  As your group reveals places they think God has abandoned them, pray for them to feel His presence, pray that God will reveal Himself to them and bring comfort, peace, mercy in their situation.  Pray for them to live a life that acknowledges that God is in their every thought and move. He loves them even though…..He will never leave or abandon them even though he doesn’t eliminte every struggle, He is there to walk with them through it.

 

5.  Live It Out:

Is there someone in our community who needs to know the truths of Psalm 139?  How can we help reveal His presence to them?

Flow Questions for April 28 & 29, 2012

1. Introduction:

In the television show Fear Factor, contestants were challenged in three separate areas: heights, crazy food, or terrifying predicaments. If given the option to: jump out of a plane, or eat a bug, or be submerged in a sinking car without air, which would you most likely do? Which would you least likely want to do?

Leader note: Have fun with this, you are just trying to get people to think of the notion of dealing with their fears. This can be something that everyone can do. Make it quick, but let everybody play.

Tip: Spend 5 minutes on this question.

 

2. Observation:

Read Numbers 13: 1-3, 25-33, 14: 1-10. What do you learn about: God, the land, and the people?

Tip: Spend about 7-10 minutes on this question as there is a lot to talk about in this passage.

Commentary: Some of the answers may be:

God:

    • He speaks
    • He wanted them to go into the Promised Land
    • He doesn’t like to be disrespected
    • He wants the people to remember what He did
    • He will at times give us obstacles and hurdles
    • He clearly revealed Himself
    • He takes disobedience seriously

People:

    • Moses did as he was commanded
    • The men did as they were instructed
    • The men saw the Promised Land as beautiful
    • They were afraid of the “giants”
    • Caleb had faith in God
    • The men pushed back against Caleb
    • People were scared and disappointed in God
    • People were forgetful
    • People were mad at God and Moses
    • Joshua and Caleb knew that nothing is impossible with God
    • People wanted to kill Joshua and Caleb

Land:

    • God gave it to the Israelites
    • Bountiful and fertile
    • Full of powerful people
    • Fortified Towns
    • Worth Conquering

 

3. Understanding:

If you were able to address the Israelites, what would you say to them?

Leader note: As you read the scripture and the peoples response, clearly would want to give a wake-up call to the Israelites and remind them of who God really is, and all that God has done and can do.

 When was a challenging time in your life, and yet God came through for you? How does that impact your challenges of today?

Leader note: Often times to see the faithfulness of God, all we have to do is look back and see the ways he has come through in the past. Allow the group to reflect back and share, have that be a confidence builder to all God can do in the present and future.

 

4. Application:

Do you tend to see the “opportunities” in life, or do you tend to focus on “obstacles?” Why do you find yourself living that way?

 Leader note: This is a time to instill in your group members the notion that with God anything is possible. You will have people in your group who have experienced difficulty in their life, and they may feel like God doesn’t come through, or God doesn’t have anything good for them. They may be trying to do things on their own strength, so they may feel insecure in their ability, leaving God totally out of the equation. This is a great time to speak confidence into your group members. This is a chance for people to gain confidence in all that God can do through each member in their group. If I see that God can do something in your life, I have the confidence that God can do the same for me.

 What is an area in your life where you need courage? What are you afraid of? What do you hope is waiting for you when you take that step of faith with God? What will it take for you to be like Joshua and Caleb?

Leader note: Pray for each other. Pray for courage and faith knowing that God wants to take us to a better place, and has great things in store for us.

 

5. Living it out:

Who is someone in your life that is afraid or “frozen” in life? How can you be a Joshua and a Caleb to them?

Tip: Spend 7-12 minutes on this question.

Leader note: We all have people in our life that are stuck, whether it is personally, financially, relationally, etc. Sometimes people need to hear that with God, they can do anything. Think of people that you can pour into, give them confidence in God, and in themselves.